Do You Have a Dream? Dr. Molly Barrow Clinical Psychology

Do our pasts dictate that we must remain who or what we have been? Have you ever wanted to make a big change in your life? Can you imagine what it might take for an attorney to become a florist, a house wife to decide to become a veterinarian, or an ex-addict to lecture and help kids stay off drugs?

When you envision yourself in a different role, do you implode cringing in fear? The following tips may help you make that important first leap into the unknown, avoid the embarrassment of failure, and reduce the hooting jeers of friends and family.

1. DREAM
Do you have a specific dream? Without a dream to carry you over the rough times, it is hard to be successful at changing your life for the better. Can you describe what your day would be like if you achieve your goal?

2. VISION
Cut out photos that represent your goal and put them in highly visible places. If you can see it, your brain will help you find the way there. Limit your goals in number because a goal requires 100% effort and can not afford to be diluted by having too many conflicting goals at once.

3. MUTE
The greatest resistance to your new you will come from people who care the most. They do not want to lose you and will try to keep the status quo. Put their loving critical voices on mute.

4. TRY IT ON
What if you started today to just call yourself the title that goes along with your dream. Today you are on your way to becoming the next president of the United States, the fastest man over eighty or the youngest graduate of college. No one can say you are not.

5. ONE STEP
If you really are on your way, what would be the first little step you could take? Maybe you buy a notebook, or a pair of walking shoes. Maybe you have tea, instead of a latte. Maybe you take one class on the Internet toward a new degree. What is the next choice of a winner?

6. LIST
Keep a list in your pocket or purse. On one side put your blessings and make a check mark every day that you can on all that is positive in your day right now. Your family is healthy. The sun is shining. You exercised today. On the other side, list your challenges. Write down the roadblocks that must be traversed and overcome to move you forward toward your goal. Next to each challenge, create a baby step that might resolve or shrink the challenge.

7. FEEL HAPPY
Take time to feel each mini success. Let yourself smile, get chills of excitement, or dance a jig. If you wait for the resolution of the goal to feel good, you may run out of steam and quit.

So from this point on, I am on my way to becoming the new face of Dior Face Care with a best selling book and a mega web site. So what about you? What the heck..dream big with me! What is your secret goal and your first step to having what you want?

BIO: Introducing the new relationship compatibility test, Match Lines Systems for Successful Relationships for Singles, Couples and Business by psychology expert, Dr. Molly Barrow. Official Web Site: http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com. Find love and healthy relationship advice for dating, pre-marital, marriage, and business relationships. Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, "Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love," ISBN 159507158X. As an authority on relationship and psychological topics; a member of the American Psychological Association, Screen Actors Guild, and Authors Guild and is a licensed mental health counselor, Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women's Health, Harvard Business School, Women's World and Shrink About This columnist for Menstuff.

Johnny Grant Mr. Hollywood Molly Barrow

Johnny Grant and Dr. Molly Barrow at the Hollywood Roosevelt Hotel

My friend Johnny Grant died on Wednesday. His promise to make me a "Star" was his way of encouraging me in all my endeavors. I thanked him in my book, "Matchlines," because he supported me and believed in me. Many people wrote about his cheerfulness and his kindness. The public Johnny that was "On" was talented and amazing, and came with much skill at performance. He created a happy character and played him for a lifetime. But the private Johnny, who although was usually happy, also got hopping mad, frustrated and occasionally lonely, The real Johnny was the most impressive. I worked as Johnny's assistant at KTLA. My two job duties were to accompany him everywhere and laugh with him. Out of the public eye, Johnny was relaxed, sarcastic, hilarious, a scoundrel about the ladies, a shrewd business man, dedicated to community service and service men and women, and he was so much fun. He generously gave me a car, too much money, his trust and even the KTLA production crew to gather shots for his television specials. We remained close friends for the past twenty-five years. He loved to show me off at his clubs and indulge together with ice cream at the Roosevelt dining room. He was well regarded for his deeds, his history and his love of people. He was a unique man and I will miss him. I am a better person for having known him.




BIO: Introducing the new relationship compatibility test, Match Lines Systems for Successful Relationships for Singles, Couples and Business by psychology expert, Dr. Molly Barrow. Official Web Site: http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com. Find love and healthy relationship advice for dating, pre-marital, marriage, and business relationships. Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, "Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love," ISBN 159507158X. As an authority on relationship and psychological topics; a member of the American Psychological Association, Screen Actors Guild, and Authors Guild and is a licensed mental health counselor, Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women's Health, Harvard Business School, Women's World and Shrink About This columnist for Menstuff.

Stalker or Old Flame? What to do in your relationship. Dr. Molly Barrow psychology expert

When an old love surfaces, it can be a lovely reunion or a huge inconvenience. Someone that was appealing a decade ago may be a huge embarrassment now in your new life and with your new partner. How do you handle an old flame without encouraging them... or angering them into stalker mode?
1. Assume that most calls or emails are the result of a nostalgic moment after a glass of wine too many and try to minimize the importance.
2. Do tell your partner right away that you receive a call or text message. If you try to avoid that, your partner will find out eventually and be really mad that you did not mention the contact before.
3. You cannot control what your old flame does but you are in control of how you respond. You can have your partner reply with a chatty email about the two kids and the new boat and how happy you all are and how fun it is to remember the past. That should kill any amorous intentions of the old flame on the spot. You can block them from your email. If it is a phone call, you can ignore it or call back in a professional manner that is polite, but definite, that you are not interested. Thanks, but no thanks.
4. If the person is a drinker or drug user, has mental illness or has been violent in the past, you may have to take it a step farther. Ask them directly to not contact you or you will need to report them to the authorities. If they then continue to contact you, you should file a police report and even get a restraining order. Alcohol, drugs and mental illness can make an individual feel entitled to dominate or take advantage of another person's rights. You do not have to be a victim to their selfish and unfair behavior.
5. Usually, someone just has fond memories of a time in their life and wants to connect with someone who shared those memories. They are not threatening to a healthy current relationship, just annoying. If, however, you also feel some ancient stirring for that old flame, we might have "trouble right here in River City." Secrets are so delicious and destructive, therefore tell your partner about your fantasy to help keep the excitement under control. Remember, you did not work out the first time and odds are that the second time around you will have the same issues and problems. You are better off with the sure thing of your current partner than trying to revive a failed relationship with an old partner. See if you can bring that excitement and sexual charge home to your partner.
6. If you are the one that is making the calls, you need to move on. Try changing your patterns and habits to help you get over an old flame. If you cannot make progress in healing your broken heart, do seek a professional counselor for a few months of therapy.


BIO: Introducing the new relationship compatibility test, Match Lines Systems for Successful Relationships for Singles, Couples and Business by psychology expert, Dr. Molly Barrow. Official Web Site: http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com. Find love and healthy relationship advice for dating, pre-marital, marriage, and business relationships. Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, "Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love," ISBN 159507158X. As an authority on relationship and psychological topics; a member of the American Psychological Association, Screen Actors Guild, and Authors Guild and is a licensed mental health counselor, Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women's Health, Harvard Business School, Women's World and Shrink About This columnist for Menstuff.

Is Barack White or Black?

A rule of competition is to make it personal, if you cannot beat the platform. Sound familiar? Does it serve the competition to refer to Obama as the first black president?


Senator Barack Obama launched his campaign for presidency quietly and is now ahead of the pack. The media, caught showing Obama's photo in juxtaposition with terrorists, has begun to announce Barack Obama's bid for president with the words "Black and historic." Who were Carol Moseley Braun and Reverend Al Sharpton when they ran for President?

Has someone checked the bloodlines of every white past president to say for certain that Black has not been presidential before? Certainly, in other countries black has been King. How much black does it take to be black? One drop? That again ignores good scientific theory of 51%. What does it take to be white? Why does it matter? If he is fifty-fifty, then why not say Obama's historic white bid for presidency?

Crowds are cheering Obama's message and fear is striking in the heart of leader evildoers. As the control of the people slips from this administration, politicians who have aligned themselves with an unpopular side, are now forced to reevaluate their political posturing. Criticism is loud and abundant for Bush choices based on lies and disregard for the good of the people. Clearly the people are demanding politicians of the past release their grip on America’s throat.

A country run with intelligence and morality that crowds imagine Barack demonstrates would be a welcome change from unbridled greed and the lightly veiled business of war that makes new billionaires while children bleed to death. Hillary now placing third and John Edwards in second, trailed by Richardson help to make the choice complicated for blue voters, with reds looking weak.
America is hungry for strong leadership. The one word that is making a difference is not "change" even though Republicans and Democrats presidential contenders scramble to mention change repeatedly in their speeches, but rather it is the word "leader." Who can lead and inspire the people to tackle our country's difficult tasks ahead? We shall see.

BIO: Introducing the new relationship compatibility test, Match Lines Systems for Successful Relationships for Singles, Couples and Business by psychology expert, Dr. Molly Barrow. Official Web Site: http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com. Find love and healthy relationship advice for dating, pre-marital, marriage, and business relationships. Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, "Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love," ISBN 159507158X. As an authority on relationship and psychological topics; a member of the American Psychological Association, Screen Actors Guild, and Authors Guild and is a licensed mental health counselor, Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women's Health, Harvard Business School, Women's World and Shrink About This columnist for Menstuff.

Buyer's Remorse Dr. Molly Barrow Psychology

BUYER's REMORSE

Dr. Molly Barrow

That sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach as the thrill of the purchase begins to wear off is buyer's remorse. Frequently felt after major purchases like a new house, car or boat, buyer's remorse may also appear once holiday and birthday celebrations wind down and the realization that you have overspent your budget begins to choke you. Even worse, sometimes you do not have the funds to pay for what you have just purchased.

Often in anticipation of a windfall like a money gift, loan or refinance, the more impulsive people may see the future finances as a sure thing and be devastated when the funds fall through. Creditors are vicious in their voracity to obtain funds even if paying them means literally to deny food from your children. Here are three important rules to help keep your finances in order.

1. Set up automatic payments for your monthly bills, but be sure to check your "payment due" amount frequently. Interest rates vary and you may end up a dollar short one month. Your creditor can then increase your interest rate to 30% and charge a late fee. Read the fine print of any credit card or loan carefully.

2. Take a second job if necessary to pay off creditors and tear up all credit cards except for one emergency card. Put your emergency card in a safe place and use it only for a true emergency.

3. Hesitate, hesitate, hesitate before all purchases. We do not need 99% of what we desire. If you do purchase, leave the tags on and wait a few days until the rush of acquisition wears off. If you can live without it, return it.

The idea is to save money, not to squander it. Every dollar represents the time of your life that you gave to earn it. Value your life highly and get off that treadmill of work-spend-work and introduce yourself to work-save-play.


BIO: Introducing the new relationship compatibility test, Match Lines Systems for Successful Relationships for Singles, Couples and Business by psychology expert, Dr. Molly Barrow. Official Web Site: http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com. Find love and healthy relationship advice for dating, pre-marital, marriage, and business relationships. Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, "Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love," ISBN 159507158X. As an authority on relationship and psychological topics; a member of the American Psychological Association, Screen Actors Guild, and Authors Guild and is a licensed mental health counselor, Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women's Health, Harvard Business School, Women's World and Shrink About This columnist for Menstuff.

How to Stop Fighting!! Relationship expert Dr. Molly Barrow

Are you fighting with the one that you wish you were making love with? Is it really possible to turn a relationship around and get back to being Sweethearts? When should a couple who argues get help with their relationship? Check out the answers to these questions and learn five simple warning signs that indicate a relationship may need help.

1. Are your arguments happening more frequently?
Every couple has disagreements and conflicts once in a while. However, if you are fighting several times a week or even daily, that is too often. You may be having the same argument over and over without ever coming to an agreement. Enhance your communication skills and learn to solve your problems together.

2. Does a good time become a disaster when one or both of you has a sudden mood shift and the good time blows up into a ruined mess?
The inability to have any good times without some rough moments means your relationship is becoming depleted. A relationship can disintegrate to the point where it fails to nourish you or your partner emotionally. Conflict is exhausting and one area of disagreement can effect the rest of your relationship until you forget the good qualities and see only the fighting. Call a truce and try to have some fun together to help keep your love alive.

3. Have you had a fight in public over something fairly trivial?
Some proud people find public displays to be horribly embarrassing and humiliating. The fight may be forgotten but anger over a shaming experience may linger a long time. Mutual respect means protecting each others feelings, in private and in public arenas.

4. Is one partner increasingly drinking, drugging, or taking prescription medication?
Too often substance use or abuse is an escape from the hard work of communicating and compromise. A relationship can be destroyed by substance abuse. After a few drinks, a fight can turn into a shoving match, broken glass and worse. If your relationship is suffering from abuse of any kind, get professional help immediately.

5. When a fight starts, can neither one of you pull out of the tailspin?
Fighting can be a bad habit with a pattern that becomes more difficult to break each time the argument is repeated. Some fights start over perceived slights or misinterpretations, yet end up a full blown crisis that takes several days to run its course. Try to agree on a signal word that will help you and your partner take a step back and three deep breaths.

If you and your lover are experiencing any of these symptoms, you can agree to read some helpful books, talk to a therapist or good friend, or attend a relationship class to teach you new ways to handle old conflict. Your relationship will thrive from the positive attention that you give in place of all that negativity. Far wiser to learn to be joyful with each other and ignore the irritations and annoyances.


BIO: Introducing the new relationship compatibility test, Match Lines Systems for Successful Relationships for Singles, Couples and Business by psychology expert, Dr. Molly Barrow. Official Web Site: http://www.DrMollyBarrow.com. Find love and healthy relationship advice for dating, pre-marital, marriage, and business relationships. Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, "Matchlines: A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the Right Choices in Love," ISBN 159507158X. As an authority on relationship and psychological topics; a member of the American Psychological Association, Screen Actors Guild, and Authors Guild and is a licensed mental health counselor, Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert in the film, My Suicide, documentaries Ready to Explode and KTLA Impact, NBC news, PBS In Focus, WBZT talk radio and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, The Nest, MSN.com, Yahoo, Match.com, N Magazine, Women's Health, Harvard Business School, Women's World and Shrink About This columnist for Menstuff.